Love What You Do… Or Don’t Do It
So many great things about social media, so I will ALWAYS love it.
One of the worst things about it is, people try to close a deal WAY too fast. Were all selling something, sharing experience. But when people try to sell to you right away. I’m not even talking about after they connect with you, I’m talking about weeks, months later.
I have all sorts of creatives that plug me their work for potential collaborations. I think, yeah, maybe we could work together one day in the future. But I really like to get to know people, see people evolve, get better. But that might be months, even years away. And the same goes with me with others. Some name actors follow me, but I don’t do the hard sell on them.
But when people want you to work them right away, and you don’t, they often burn their bridges. They take it personal that you don’t want to work with them right away. Or ever. It lets me see how they don’t really get the point of all this new social connection.
I might like an actor, DOP, band, composer, SFX artist, but I might not have a project that is right for them for years. But smart people are not waiting for somebody to get back to them. They keep selling their work, and don’t burn their bridges. And they have passion and patience.
Don’t try and close the deal right away. This new world of social media is a marathon, not a sprint!
FUCK THE “BUCKET LIST!”
I used to have a bucket list. Not anymore.
I don’t want to jump out of a plane, swim with dolphins, raft the grand canyon, or learn to fucking yodel! I could kill that list in months if I REALLY wanted to do it. I never got thonked into this world just to tick off a bucket list.
My point is, I have one life, so if its totally doable, it’s not on my list! I’m on this planet to push myself for higher than that. I don’t want quick “looking forward to” thrills in my life that keep me going from week to week in a shitty job. And believe me, I have had a LOT of shitty jobs! Bigger lists take passion and patience. It takes YEARS of plugging away at something you want to do for a living one day.
Many people get out of bed every morning and do the job they love. They don’t need the bucket list. But it took them YEARS in most cases. Many people don’t. They hate their jobs, lives. I don’t highlight this in a post because I see bucket lists everywhere, but I do see a lot of impatience.
I work hard, and I like to move fast, because life is short. But I have been going for several years now, and I know to even get a glimmer of hope of doing my passion for a living one day, it’s going to take MANY more years. I’m cool with that. But it has taken me a long time to wake up to that fact.
Don’t get me wrong, if I was happy in a regular job, in my life in general, I would ride that fucking elephant in india or bungee jump from a bridge! If that would REALLY make me happy, cool. But that bucket list is not enough for me. Like most distractions in life, it’s a series of quick fixes.
If I have learned anything after 47 years on this planet, passion and patience is the key. Jumping out of that plane might be a quick thrill ride and a good story to tell your friends, but writing that novel, starting that band, building that art studio or having a go at that business you have always dreamed of, is MUCH more rewarding in the long term in life.
It’s very liberating when you really don’t give a flying fuck anymore! In a world that is desperate for money, power, fame, acceptance. When you’re content to just do your thing, for better or worse. It lifts you beyond all the bullshit!
Were only here for a VERY brief visit. A fleeting moment. So I do what I want, not what the world tells me I should want. And I pay no attention to the world’s advice about how I should achieve my happiness.
John Cassavetes & Gena Rowlands